Can a Relationship with a DJ Actually Work?

Thanks for writing in. I'd have to say first that you should think of yourself as a goddess and not a civilian. That would be a good start. We all know that women run the universe and you must know that as well. I agree, you should move on. Time and place is important. You tried it, it happened, and it'll probably be better off for both of you guys when the smoke clears. To be honest, I think and know a relationship with a DJ/producer/musician can work, but I also think that girls need to realize some things about guys. I had a girlfriend for-fucking-ever and I to a certain extent feel guilty of these same things that you're writing about. But also I know that if I didn't work as hard as I do or put everything into my craft, I might be under a bridge doing drugs somewhere or could just be having a shitty job and hating life. It was sort of the only option after a while. I don't even know if I could get a job at McDonald's right now. Real talk. And you don't want that, cuz seeing a happy creative person is probably what attracted you to this guy in the first place. That said, I do wish sometimes my ex-girlfriend would have spoke up and been like, "YO. Close your computer, don't go out tonight, hang with me." Instead, she was so overly supportive that I kinda forgot to take a time out and tend to my relationship. Of course, after you ruin the whole thing you can look back with 20/20 vision and go, "Yeah, I should have stayed home a couple nights a week, turned my phone off, and focused completely on the relationship," but when you're wrapped up in the situation, it's pretty hard to see that. I feel lucky that I can see it now, and I've promised myself that I will practice that in the future. I think the internet and all this immediate impact of society has made us believe that we are supposed to be turnt on 24/7 and always hashtag hashtag hustling. It's all bullshit and we took the bait. I also realize that people in our shoes inspire a lot of things, but in a relationship situation, I think dudes like us need a woman to drive us and inspire us too. Besides the love of music, sex, eating food, and all the common things that make relationships great, I think the other side is that the woman needs to go away in her realm and come back with amazing stories too. While we are out being inspired and have stories to come back with, where are yours? I'm not saying it has to be 50-50, but if you aren't coming back with any, the communication is going to run out and that's when you become that couple at dinner where the people are just staring at each other talking about nothing. No one wants to be that. So yeah, I think with a little bit of communication, a little bit of "Yo, come on you idiot," and a little bit of understanding that we are eternal 12 year olds, it can definitely happen. *Column 45*